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Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot  ...
The correct approach is to pick your way around your thoughts, finding more positive ways to look at your situation, which are genuinely believable and plausible to yourself. And the way to know whether a particular way of thinking is more positive or not is to pay attention to your emotions.
Eg if a certain line of thinking leads you from feeling "very frustrated", to merely "frustrated", then that's a positive line of thinking. If another line of thinking then leads you from feeling "frustrated" to feeling "slightly annoyed", then it is also a positive line of thinking. And later on, you find thoughts which lead you from feeling "slightly annoyed" to feeling "calm", then that works too.
As you align your thoughts, your reality changes along with them, allowing you to push it gently, gently, gently into a more pleasing form. But the process is never about deceiving yourself about what currently is true for you. |
This is great! And there are two parts of your mind, your conscious and your unconscious. Your conscious brain only controls about 5% of your thought and activity so we don't have to worry about what's logical or timely. It is your unconscious that we really have to aim at. That's why night time affirmations work better than day time ones, or meditative ones better than wide awake ones. Affirmations done in the mirror are very powerful because it is someone (else!) saying these things to us.
And, as ALG says, since it's not going to help too much if we say A, and our feelings are saying, no, no, it's B. We are canceling out the affirmation. So, there are some tricky ways to get the message across:
Anything we hear goes into our subconscious. So, if we are saying mean and demeaning things to our partner or our children or about the neighbor next door or the guy who just cut us off on the highway, our unconscious takes all that in as if it was said to us!
Conversely, if you don't believe that you are great, but you believe that your partner is great, say it out loud A LOT. It will help you too. This is the other reason to celebrate another's success. It will help you to believe in success.
- Nancy