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Originally Posted by ohTen  Being attractive comes with its own set of problems not limited to the vitriolic jealousy of others. As I have gotten older, I've had to contend with lecherous old men harassing me, people who only want to know me to get in my pants, people thinking that they can make a spectacle out of me, people thinking that it's okay to treat me like a piece of meat because I'm beautiful and that must mean that I have a voracious sexual appetite and don't want to be treated like a human being, or that because I'm beautiful I must be a vapid airhead (in reality, I'm an Ivy-league student, extremely spiritual, vegan, and a die-hard feminist). Yet having to deal with all of these things has wisened me up, and after a few experiences I've developed a pretty keen sense of people's intentions. Did I mention how uncomfortable it is to have people constantly staring at you wherever you go?
But I didn't ask to be born this way: being attractive has its own very large set of drawbacks. People act differently in front of attractive people much in the same way they do in front of disfigured people: after a while, it's easy to see through people's acts to who they truly are and their true intentions. The only way to survive in the world as an attractive woman is to have an extremely strong sense of who you are and huge confidence in yourself, but many never get there. I cannot tell you how many beautiful women (and men) I know who take abuse that nobody should have to encounter. That said, Attractive =/= confident. We are treated just as poorly as, if not worse, than any other human being. Honestly, my experience leads me to believe that average-looking people have a better go of it - like starting life with one less handicap. |
Just wanted to say that I share
ohTen's opinion 100%.
At which I would like to add, in regards to what another poster had said on the previous page - I would quote him if I weren't too lazy
- that gaining self-awarness from being attractive can sometimes do more damage than good. In the sense that if, based on the fact that you know that you are beautiful, you start having certain expectations, which only serve to diminish the level of effort put into a goal. Sometimes it works, but it's a very short rope.