Thanks for your input,
I think it is much simpler than subjective reality models suggest.
Yes, it is my reaction, and it is a reaction based on a value system that I have. I know now that I need to temper my reaction, instead of negative reaction to things that do not fit within my views. It's better to have a neutral or positive reaction to those things, and have a psychological system to accept and move past them.
A CBT practitioner suggested a long time ago, to push away things I don't want and to associate them with negative words. Though it worked for some things, the whole approach is pretty negative and freudian, and now I see a step beyond it.
Here I see a quick NLP switch works. I already know that the underlying dissonance is simply that others' value systems aren't resonanting with mine.
I decided to see such behaviors as primitive, rather than gross. As in, vestiges of human behavior, more neutral than it is negative, and also with an evolving forward direction (pretty soon EVERYONE will know better than to eat bloody meat, we're just a ahead of the game). And so to move past that stuff, neutralize it and be on my way.
