[sallyfrieldam]

Hi everyone.

Please help me to understand what people think when they say porn. As a female I look at porn to try and learn about sex. What I see is violence, not sex!! I would love to be wrong. If people see porn that isn't violent please let me know it exists so my faith in this modern day version of sexuality can be restored!!

Some females can orgasm through vagina penis intercourse, some females can't. Every female can orgasm through their clitoris (the penis and the clitoris are the same organ, the different sex hormones of the female or male foetus cause it to either grow into a penis or a clitoris) I have looked at porn and it concentrates on the mans penis and ignores the woman clitoris.

People say porn is sex. When i look at porn it seems to be totally about the mans pleasure and nothing to do with the womans pleasure. It seems to be about the mans belief that he must be violent and humiliate the woman (pulling her hair, calling her horrible names, seeking small very young looking females, tieing them up, putting a mans bodily fliuds on the woman, submissive females etc etc etc).

If i am wrong folks please let me know. The reason I think this is just the stuff i see when i look at porn.

Also, I believe in being truthful about our intentions. If my boyfriend said "I am monogamous" but masturbated to the thought of seuxal interactions with other people I would say he was lieing. I would say he enjoys the thought of polygamy, and I would question why he was in a monogamous relationship. I would not shame him or devalue him. But if my desire was for monogamy and he was happy as he was and didnt wish to change I would conclude that we were not suited.