[Michelle]

Originally Posted by joelr

Hmmm, "should" statements and bliss being equated to laying around or eating calorie dense food for pleasure.
I'd really like to lay around more and I REALLY want to eat pleasure foods every day. And above all I'd really like to feel a warm opiate buzz all the time ever since I took home an oxycodone script when I had a kidney stone.

But all these things will eventually cause the "should" to reverse itself becoming - "I shouldn't have done that". Shouldn't I should not do these things?

Do your diets actually fail to work or do you end up cheating too much?
What is making you so miserable while dieting? Sounds like a psychological food addiction type thing with the emotional pain you describe. I have that right now, I just tried to start a diet but found I need the stress reducing chemicals more than I thought right now.

Everyone who does a drug, whether that drug be food or heroine is looking to experience a certain sensation - relief from pain, inner peace - anything better than misery. There is nothing wrong with wanting to experience that while searching for other healthier ways to do the same. I believe anyone who wants to lay around should do so and I don't think laying around will kill you anymore than forcing sport on someone who hates it will.

The diets feel like they go uphill. That is where they go wrong. I believe in ease, flow and ever increasing relief - not in pain, struggle and ever increasing pain and discomfort.

I have no doubt my extra pounds are related to past pain yet unresolved. But the way to lose these pounds is not to go against how I feel and force myself to work at something which feels unnatural and wrong. It is instead my job to resolve the remaining pain and naturally flow to a place of greater joy and love where I won't feel the need to self-medicate with excess food.