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Still Growing · 07-02-2009, 04:33 PM

ALG,

I'm not saying I'm for abortions for myself however if abortions are an option and if the man is for an abortion and the woman choses not to have an abortion then isn't she choosing to have the baby?

If the woman thinks that abortions are against her values or if she just wishes to have a baby because she wants to bring a child of her own onto the earth then isn't she making the ultimate choice?

What if pregnant women had to contact men before a certain trimester so that they could decide as a couple? This would be the man's opportunity to choose an abortion. If she chose under her own free will based upon her body and her beliefs that she wanted the baby and he did not then he would not be obligated to pay. Her options would be:

1. To abort
2. To have the baby and he would have zero rights if he chose abortion. He could however reverse his decision before a certain age to be in the baby's life but of course he'd have to pay; potentially even back pay for past expenses.
3. To put the baby up for adoption. There are thousands of couples that would feel so blessed to adopt nowadays.

If I got a woman pregnant and she chose to have the baby I'd pay and be in the baby's life myself. However, if we are in a society where abortions are legal then why do we say that the woman has no options?

Certainly you can't make a woman have an abortion however she has the choice. Its not the man's problem if its against her values if its within his values as long as abortions are legal.

BTW, I'm not committed to this ideology since my values are different than the predicaments we speak of however I am posing a serious question as to "Does the woman really have no option and so therefore the man must pay?"

07-02-2009, 04:33 PM	#65 (permalink)
Still Growing Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 944	ALG, I'm not saying I'm for abortions for myself however if abortions are an option and if the man is for an abortion and the woman choses not to have an abortion then isn't she choosing to have the baby? If the woman thinks that abortions are against her values or if she just wishes to have a baby because she wants to bring a child of her own onto the earth then isn't she making the ultimate choice? What if pregnant women had to contact men before a certain trimester so that they could decide as a couple? This would be the man's opportunity to choose an abortion. If she chose under her own free will based upon her body and her beliefs that she wanted the baby and he did not then he would not be obligated to pay. Her options would be: 1. To abort 2. To have the baby and he would have zero rights if he chose abortion. He could however reverse his decision before a certain age to be in the baby's life but of course he'd have to pay; potentially even back pay for past expenses. 3. To put the baby up for adoption. There are thousands of couples that would feel so blessed to adopt nowadays. If I got a woman pregnant and she chose to have the baby I'd pay and be in the baby's life myself. However, if we are in a society where abortions are legal then why do we say that the woman has no options? Certainly you can't make a woman have an abortion however she has the choice. Its not the man's problem if its against her values if its within his values as long as abortions are legal. BTW, I'm not committed to this ideology since my values are different than the predicaments we speak of however I am posing a serious question as to "Does the woman really have no option and so therefore the man must pay?" Last edited by Still Growing; 07-02-2009 at 04:41 PM.