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coffegirl · 07-01-2009, 10:02 PM

Hey,I have exactly the same problem-and that´s why I am actually visiting this forum.
I am also suffering from social anxiety and depression and for years I spend my time with daydreaming.Now I am suddenly awaken and I am about to make a new start-but you know it´s easier said than done,isn´t it?
First of all you can´t dig yourself out of a hole in a little while,cause fears and bad habits,which developed in the course of time, are keeping you under control.It´s not a quite favorable realization and if you aim for a nicer life you have to fight against that anxieties and bad habits -immediately!
It´s no use to procrastinate or to be inconsequent in your decisions.
You can search for solutions as much as you want,but if you don´t be consitent and instead search for excuses,to fall back into your old habits and wallows of self-pity you are always running on the spot-that´s the reason why I didn´t make any progress yet even though I know nearly all of Steve´s great concepts.
So it would be wise to take some time to break the bad (unproductive) habits and adopt successful (productive) habits.
People,who suffer from depression and social anxiety,are likely to have unproductive habits,cause they feel the need to escape from reality and search for something that directly comfort them.
When they "wake up" someday,they are overwhelmed by reality and either they have suicidal ideations or they want to make the "perfect comeback"-to instantly reach high goals.
It mostly don´t work,cause they are too much focused on their goals and their ideas of success and dont realize that they firstly have to work on themselves and their daily habits before they start working for higher goals.
You won´t accomplish them if you are still blocked by your old habits and anxieties.
Short-term success is quite motivational and and an important addition,but speaking about depression and social anxiety you should defintely go for long-time change.
In summary the first step is to work on yourself,to accept that a habit change is inevitable ,if you really want to change your life.
Kick the habits,that eventually make yourself miserable-habits like starting the computer and spending hours in front of the screen,watching TV or consuming snacks.
They provide short satisfcation,but you don´t need them to achieve success.
Start immediately to abandon these habits and realize that the faster you kick a habit,the faster you are "free" to experience a sense of achievement.
It would be clever to replace them with productive habits,depending on what you would like to improve.
You can only benefit from a change in habits.
Then it´s important to enjoy every day -to do something that provides you a feeling of self-growth.

If you like you can write me an e-mail,cause I have the same problem as you,so we can motivate each other and plan how to start from zero and achieve great things.

07-01-2009, 10:02 PM	#7 (permalink)
coffegirl Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 15	Hey,I have exactly the same problem-and that´s why I am actually visiting this forum. I am also suffering from social anxiety and depression and for years I spend my time with daydreaming.Now I am suddenly awaken and I am about to make a new start-but you know it´s easier said than done,isn´t it? First of all you can´t dig yourself out of a hole in a little while,cause fears and bad habits,which developed in the course of time, are keeping you under control.It´s not a quite favorable realization and if you aim for a nicer life you have to fight against that anxieties and bad habits -immediately! It´s no use to procrastinate or to be inconsequent in your decisions. You can search for solutions as much as you want,but if you don´t be consitent and instead search for excuses,to fall back into your old habits and wallows of self-pity you are always running on the spot-that´s the reason why I didn´t make any progress yet even though I know nearly all of Steve´s great concepts. So it would be wise to take some time to break the bad (unproductive) habits and adopt successful (productive) habits. People,who suffer from depression and social anxiety,are likely to have unproductive habits,cause they feel the need to escape from reality and search for something that directly comfort them. When they "wake up" someday,they are overwhelmed by reality and either they have suicidal ideations or they want to make the "perfect comeback"-to instantly reach high goals. It mostly don´t work,cause they are too much focused on their goals and their ideas of success and dont realize that they firstly have to work on themselves and their daily habits before they start working for higher goals. You won´t accomplish them if you are still blocked by your old habits and anxieties. Short-term success is quite motivational and and an important addition,but speaking about depression and social anxiety you should defintely go for long-time change. In summary the first step is to work on yourself,to accept that a habit change is inevitable ,if you really want to change your life. Kick the habits,that eventually make yourself miserable-habits like starting the computer and spending hours in front of the screen,watching TV or consuming snacks. They provide short satisfcation,but you don´t need them to achieve success. Start immediately to abandon these habits and realize that the faster you kick a habit,the faster you are "free" to experience a sense of achievement. It would be clever to replace them with productive habits,depending on what you would like to improve. You can only benefit from a change in habits. Then it´s important to enjoy every day -to do something that provides you a feeling of self-growth. If you like you can write me an e-mail,cause I have the same problem as you,so we can motivate each other and plan how to start from zero and achieve great things.