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Future's Origin · 02-01-2007, 06:37 AM

My husband and I were just speaking about how we think we unknowingly used the LoA to attract each other as children. We both desired to be in a loving committed long term relationship early in life. We would both visualize this very frequently. It had nothing to do with the person, we both just desired to be in such a relationship. This started early in childhood for both of us, well before puberty. We got together when we were 16 and will celebrate 8 very happy years this summer. At that time, I was really disillusioned with everything, particularly men, but when I saw him there was that immediate pull and "knowing." I was definitely sending off negative energy and he said although he was attracted to me, he put me out of his mind because I was unapproachable and uninterested in men. We were friends for a year, but we eventually got together when I changed my outlook. We said our "I love you's" at week 2 when it just slipped out, we both felt communicating the feeling so soon would be considered inappropriate and juvenile, but it was real and has never wavered. When we compare our earlier desires, both for relationships and for life in general, it is uncanny how similar they are. Although I believe we may be "soul mates" or kindred spirits who knew one another before this life, I am absolutely convinced that our intentions brought us together so young.

I suggest you focus your intentions more on being in your ideal relationship than finding your ideal mate. It worked for me and I wasn't even conciously trying. I never thought about specific qualities or the other person at all, just the relationship. When visualizing/meditating, try to hold that satisfied, whole feeling you get from a healthy relationship, instead of thinking about an ideal person. Your ideal mate may not have all of these qualities, at least not yet, and remember no one is perfect. There will always be flaws and times when someone needs a little rescuing. Perfection can get dull, but I understand your desire to do the best for yourself and keep your life moving forward and not attract baggage. Focusing on the happiness inside the relationship will draw this person to you. Good luck to you, HTH.

02-01-2007, 06:37 AM	#12 (permalink)
Future's Origin Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 16	My husband and I were just speaking about how we think we unknowingly used the LoA to attract each other as children. We both desired to be in a loving committed long term relationship early in life. We would both visualize this very frequently. It had nothing to do with the person, we both just desired to be in such a relationship. This started early in childhood for both of us, well before puberty. We got together when we were 16 and will celebrate 8 very happy years this summer. At that time, I was really disillusioned with everything, particularly men, but when I saw him there was that immediate pull and "knowing." I was definitely sending off negative energy and he said although he was attracted to me, he put me out of his mind because I was unapproachable and uninterested in men. We were friends for a year, but we eventually got together when I changed my outlook. We said our "I love you's" at week 2 when it just slipped out, we both felt communicating the feeling so soon would be considered inappropriate and juvenile, but it was real and has never wavered. When we compare our earlier desires, both for relationships and for life in general, it is uncanny how similar they are. Although I believe we may be "soul mates" or kindred spirits who knew one another before this life, I am absolutely convinced that our intentions brought us together so young. I suggest you focus your intentions more on being in your ideal relationship than finding your ideal mate. It worked for me and I wasn't even conciously trying. I never thought about specific qualities or the other person at all, just the relationship. When visualizing/meditating, try to hold that satisfied, whole feeling you get from a healthy relationship, instead of thinking about an ideal person. Your ideal mate may not have all of these qualities, at least not yet, and remember no one is perfect. There will always be flaws and times when someone needs a little rescuing. Perfection can get dull, but I understand your desire to do the best for yourself and keep your life moving forward and not attract baggage. Focusing on the happiness inside the relationship will draw this person to you. Good luck to you, HTH.