I really don't think cheating has anything to do with how people are dressed or how we are innundated by seductive images and nearly nude women. That is akin to saying that rape is caused by these things. On the surface it may appear so to some, but when analyzed there is always something below the surface that is the actual cause. That kind of thinking is almost like a victimization mindset and absolves a person of their own responsibilities. We don't have control over what other people do, but we have control of ourselves and we choose to surrender this control, we are not "worn down." When people cheat there are almost always reasons that go way beyond sex, especially in a commited long term relationship.
You're solution of seperating men and women and criminalizing pre marital sex is downright creepy and insulting, to me. But I'm not passing judgement, I'm just completely disgusted with how that type of social structure would impact my life. How exactly would a society flourish under such conditions? How would people work together? Would there be exclusively male and female businesses and governments? Where do gay people fit into this equation, or those who never wish to marry? What kind of punishment would be appropriate for premarital sex? Honestly, restricting all aspects of personal freedom and growth because some people are unable to control themselves is extreme. It also seems to have nothing to do with cultivating a true, loving, stable partnership deeply desired by both parties. I seriously doubt further associating marriage with shackles and the complete anhiliation of personal freedom is going to help our society deal with this problem.
Cheating and other sexually "immoral" behavior have nothing to do with outside influences. You have control over yourself and you are making a choice. Sexual instincts may switch on, but they do not seize control of your body. And if it does, you have let it, it has nothing to do with the stimulus. I know a few men who are insulted by this idea that men are these mindless voracious beast that lose all self control when exposed to a midriff and cleavage. Men who are happy in their relationship and in their lives typically don't cheat. They can see an attractive woman, evaluate the social adequacies of her appearance and move on with their lives in complete control. Heck they can pass a hundred women and still go home if that is what they want to do. The unhappy man will have more of a problem in such situations. It has nothing to do with the stimulus, the "evil seductress" on the television or in the office. The problem is the cheater and that persons happiness with their life. I think that if someone cheats, they weren't committed in the first place. Society gives us a long list of "shoulds." I think many people get married or in a monogamous relationship more because of social pressure than what they actually want. You may have committed yourself to another person, but you also have to make this commitment to yourself for it to work. If you really want it, it isn't something difficult and it doesn't feel like a sacrifice. If you don't really want to be monogamous and faithful, than you won't be.
My solution is pretty much the exact opposite of yours. I think that as a society we need to become more open to the idea that social norms do not always fit individuals and it is more than OK to live a life outside the married with 2.5 kids and a mortgage ideal that is rammed down our throats constantly. I think this would reduce cheating because "cheaters" wouldn't be pressured to be in commited relationship that they don't truly want. People need to communicate more in general, with their partners/potential partners and more importantly within themselves. We need to be more open and honest with what we truly want and accepting and supportive of those who want something very different. Communication, openess, and honesty are absolutely critical in a long term relationship, especially in the early stages, most definitely before marriage. If that foundation is there, in the relationship and within yourself, not amount of sexual stimulus can shake it, it can only crumble from within.
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