[Megan]

It's not about fuel, it's about how we connect with people.

When we judge other people, it just adds to the burdens they are already carrying. It's like static in their heads.

What we've done is transfer the static in our heads to their heads, via projection/scapegoating.

When we withdraw judgment, there is a palpable lifting of oppression, and they are more free to behave in resourceful ways.

If we are modeling those higher ways, it potentiates their growth.

I know this whole idea is counterintuitive, but maybe just sit with it awhile, better yet, experiment with it, I would say.