Originally Posted by Gary
I don’t think Steve is saying that unconditional love is unconditional acceptance. At least I didn’t read that in his post.
I think that he is inviting us to look into our own mind when we have criticisms and emotional reactions to other people. He is inviting a level of emotional mastery that not too many people consider, and even fewer attempt. It first requires that we take complete responsibility for all our emotions. And then challenge our self to master creating emotions and thoughts consciously, instead of through reactions.
Consider the case of the co-worker who is always correcting someone even when there is nothing wrong. He might be disrespectful, and even unkind, but in the end who is creating your emotions?
People might be kind, rude, and disrespectful, but if we have judgment of them isn’t that in our own eye?
It is a real mastery to not be offended when others are unkind, rude, and disrespectful, but it can be done.
Hm...so what would be the ideal way to a react of a friend hurts your feelings and disrespects you? Would it be to remain aloof and uncaring of the relationship?
According to Steve, he's saying that if someone disrespects you, you are disrespecting yourself. But it's such a broad concept how will you be able to correct it?