[Kelvin]

Hi Everyone, I am new here.

This blog/article entry from Steve is pretty timely for me. Not too long ago, I was reflecting on myself for the sour relationship I have with my current colleagues. I even blogged about it questioning my EQ, my style or behaviour at work etc.

Cut the long story short, being in the middle management, my peers dont like to work directly with me reasons being

1) I dont tolerate nonsense, when I find something(project) done not right, I would point out straight away, hoping to improve for good of everyone. Perhaps is the way I put the message across, people felt intimidated, even to a more experience and senior peers.

2) Felt that I am a threat in their company position. Some purposely try to bypass me on some key projects, shutting off information from me or claim credits once there is some result.

Over time, it seems that all are going against me, making things difficult for me, and not wanting to deal with me directly. Office politics exist, trying to oust me, till a stage I think even my boss cant save me. And I begin to lose favourtism from boss slowly.

I did try to mend the relationship, being nice and work things with them but in the end they tried to take advantage of the situation and push the responsibilties back to my team. I got no choice but revert back to more principle oriented and firm at it.

I am not sure if I describe the situation it well enough. Although I would start from fresh again in 2 months time due to restructering in the company and my existing colleagues would not be working with me again then. I still wants to figure out if I were put in the same environment how can I handled it better.

Been dwelling on Steve's article to see if there is a link to it, and accordingly to Steve's principle, I should be working on my attitude to others and would solve it all.... or mine is just an exception case and I am unlucky to be surrounded by such colleagues..