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Originally Posted by Angela  Maybe. But that's your problem, not theirs. People who choose marriage, or who are in favor of people having that choice, don't have your problem. They're (we're) fine with things as they are, as spirit4711 put it. |
I'm a big believer that when people speak they use words repeatedly to tell how they really feel. I do my best to listen to what people are really saying. Let's examine:
The words you choose were:
"your problem" "you change / your effectiveness": you said this 5 times
"you're fine with as it": 2 times
"fear": 3 times
So what do you want to say?
I am the one with a problem, I have a problem and I need to change. You are very fine with things the way they are and although you say you would not be fearful of change I feel that you REALLY WOULD.
One person on this blog stated that in their country they are required to be separated for 3 years before having a divorce. I can't imagine being someone who wanted to divorce and then being tied up for 3 years with someone. Ugggh. But its clear that they that making this change was smart to reduce the financial and social cost that divorces have.
You can be sure that marriage was completely differing 50, 100 or 500 years ago. So are you fine with marriage the way it was created or the way it has changed? I assume that you are happy with the "current" way marriage because it did improve over the years. If there are ways for more improvements why shouldn't we discuss them? Certainly you would agree that a divorce rate at 50% is too high.