Keep doing what you're doing. Expression opens space.
The only tips I can think are to blame people you want to blame and use ease in your process.
When I'm in a rage I blame God a lot and also Vywamus, my teacher. I know it's a load of crap to blame them for my current situation, but it's inside me and I let it out. After that passes I let go of the denial and tell myself that, yes, I do create all my experience....
Ease. Ease is one of those primary building blocks of everything. Its vibration is everywhere throughout creation. You can always tune into it and resonate with it. This may help your process to be just as effective but less
uncomfortable and painful. You'll have to hold space open (1) for the ease itself and (2) for the unknown to come in and move you in a different way. You may get the feeling to do something weird right before or during a fit of rage. Something you wouldn't normally do. If you can trust yourself at that moment, follow your instinct and do what you need to do.
For instance, you might be in a rage and suddenly feel you should have your boyfriend hold you like you are his child, running his fingers through your hair. You may have to give him direction to how you need it done.
If you want to say something to yourself in meditation or whenever you forget that ease is available, say "I choose to experience ease now". Find that vibration. Its always there, you are always vibrating it.
Hope this helps.
