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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  Use this thread to discuss the following entry from Steve Pavlina's blog: Attraction |
What I've observed, courtesy of spending nearly two years on various singles sites online, is that many, many people are attracted to "opposites" and that these kinds of unions pretty much invariably end disastrously.
That said, I would agree that *certain* asymmetrical traits are complementary. For example, a person who is rather fear-driven can be challenged and supported nicely by someone who isn't fearful in those same ways (the case in my present relationship). Other traits, such as extroversion (loving social gatherings, gaining energy from being around others) are, in my observation, not compatible with introversion. You get a constant struggle between one person always needing an audience and to be around people while the other prefers quieter activities. Possibly you'll disagree with that particular match-up, but I suspect you can easily list incompatible traits from your own experience.
As a logical, "left-brained" kind of thinker, I am naturally repelled by strongly religious women (and I include "New Age" beliefs in that category). Interestingly, I can easily identify you (Steve) as a clearly logic-oriented thinker...and yet what we find attractive in a woman is VERY different from what you find attractive. I love intellectual women (just not too intellectual; my philosophy-lady friends generally don't attract me, so perhaps our differences aren't quite as stark as one might think). I don't expect or desire a lady to be as logically minded as myself, but she has to have a strong, logical mind; if not, no attraction.
I wonder what the difference between us is?
