Paul, I loved your blog! Just bookmarked and printed it--thanks!
The only solution I've found is to keep moving yourself forward and almost like magic the people around you will follow along. If advice isn't working, you need to turn inwards and work on your current problem, not theirs. It's the only thing that will help them. |
How to Change the People Around You
Lawrence Kohlberg's conception of Stages of Moral Development contains this general 'social updraft' idea also, I think:
If Kohlberg is right about the hierarchic nature of his stages, we would expect that people would still be able to understand earlier stages but consider them inferior, In fact, when Rest, et. al, presented adolescents with arguments from different stages, this is what he found. |
They understood lower-stage reasoning, but they disliked it. What they preferred was the highest stage they heard, whether they fully understood it or not. This finding suggests, perhaps, that they had some intuitive sense of the greater adequacy of the higher stages.
Kohlberg's Moral Stages
So, even if people don't act on higher advice, they are still responding to it in some way--the seeds are planted.
happymomof2, thanks for this reminder also:
The Work of Byron Katie |
1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know that it's true?
3. How do you react when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?
And remember to turn it around.
The Work of Byron Katie - Byron Katie International
What would happen if a critical mass of people started thinking/acting this way?