[spirit4711]

Originally Posted by Still Growing

With all due respect you obviously haven't bothered to read the posts. The pros are listed, the cons and the cost. So much for you trying your damnedest.

Touchy, touchy... Relax, it's only feedback. I know this is an important issue for you, I am telling you that (so far) your convincing us isn't working.

Our current system has 10.4 million divorces a year at a cost of $30 billion. (see page 1)

I asked you before where those figures come from, and how it relates to the total costs (the taxes paid). No answer on that from you, so how serious can I take you then?

What I propose is: (page 1, 2 for pros)
1. We can still get married (via churches, etc). Marriage contracts stating the use of arbitration rather than courts.
2. We can still have wedding ceremonies, exchange rings and say we're married
3. We can choose to change our last name for a fee.
4. When divorcing it can be checked off as "no contest dissolving of divorce" or "arbitration required". Lawsuits can be used under certain rare conditions

I don't know if all $30 billion could be save but possibly $20 billion could I would image.

I know this is what you propose. I personally don't see any benefits over the current system, where many people decide of their own free will to get married.

#3 is BTW already in effect in our country in the sense that the woman decides to keep her own name or take her husband's name. It would be nice to have the choice the other way around too, but for me it's not important.

#4 people will find other ways to sue each other. It seems to be the favourite sport in the US anyway.

Even if the 30 billion is correct, you don't give arguments for the savings of 20 billion. Based on what? How many judges will be fired? How many courthouses closed? Etc etc.

If you disagree with my view, thats fine but don't peruse half heartedly and then say its up to me to convince you when you haven't bothered to read the posts.

LOL! You're serious, aren't you? Blaming someone if you can't convince them is a lousy strategy. But hey, you choose the strategy. Good luck with it.

Now with my retribution attitude I'm sure you'll disagree with my point no matter. No worries though.

No worries at all. One point though. I won't disagree with you 'no matter what'. I'm willing to give up any of my opinions for a better one. I do need to be sure it is a better one though.