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Originally Posted by renie408  It's funny, because that is exactly what I was going to say when I read your title....DON'T. Don't defend your actions. Martial Dev is exactly correct. There is a difference between defending yourself and explaining yourself. Explain yourself once. Listen to the dissenting position. You either agree with it or not. If you still can't come to terms, leave it alone. |
Agreed, though I often strive to reach common understanding and can discuss most topics on which I disagree with someone until they give up in frustration, or a common understanding is eventually reached.
As long as neither party's ego is too heavily involved, in-depth analysis of any topic of dissent can be very rewarding for both parties.
It sounds like your ego was involved, Michelle, though after your mediation perhaps you can ignore those feelings which prompt you to go on the defensive.