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Originally Posted by ohTen  I recently broke it off with a guy who was EVERYTHING I wanted on paper: extremely smart, extremely creative, almost identical interests, physically attractive, sweet, older, accomplished. In the beginning, I was thrilled. I dumped him after a month because he turned out to be a total dud, for a whole host of reasons. That experience forced me to seriously re-evaluate my dating criteria, and I realized that just because someone looks good on paper and has a lot in common with you doesn't mean that they're automatically great for you. What a wake-up call that was.
Now, I have a new guy friend who is opposite me in a lot of ways. We're not dating, but the potential is there. The whole time we've been friends, I've been thinking about how many of the qualities he possesses would force me to grow and change in positive ways. Whether or not we ever start dating, my friendship with him has opened my eyes to the fact that people who are different from me can have that potential to change me for the better, and vice versa. Good information to carry into the future!
It's funny that I came across this article, as it's been a central theme of my life lately! |
well, you intended a lot of great things for your 1st boyfriend... but nothing about honesty, sincerity, kindness, etc. I'm not sure what you mean with "Dud". But maybe you forgot to consider that.
I don't believe in oppossite attract at all, in the long run, I mean. At first anything can work.