Originally Posted by eastcoastgirl
I have a friend who is habitually late; Iím habitually on time. How is she a reflection of me? And my being on time has not influenced her to be on time. She's still just as late as ever.
I do agree completely, though, with what Steve said about interacting more with others as a way to learn about yourself. I also agree that improving your internal relationships improves your relationships with others.
I believe, like steve, that if it bothers you, then you must look inwards.
Ask yourself why does her being late bother you? Is it that she is inconsiderate of others? In that case, maybe you are always on time, but perhaps you are inconsiderate in other ways. Work on that, and she might change.
Its like if my friend's smoking bothers me and I dont smoke. If its the fact that they neglet their health that bothers me, then I must ask myself : How am I negleting my health?
I believe that if its in my life and it bothers me- then its a mirror. The stronger it annoys me, the more accurate the mirror, and the greater oppurtunity to grow by changing myself.