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Originally Posted by ns123  Actually, in his view, you were rejecting his love. I think a lot of parents (me included, since I am a parent) long to feel needed - like we still matter. We still want to nurture and take care of our kids. So when our kids say, oh... I don't need anything, thanks! Some times, we take it as, oh, I don't need you - which really hurts. A lot! So to him, when you said, I don't need anything... he heard, I don't need you. You felt you were being strong and independent, he felt his role as a father (provider, nurturer) was being rejected. |
I don't see any solution to this problem, because we just see things totally differently. Even if I were to say "I'm glad you are offering to help but I don't need anything right now", it would STILL bother him. So what do you do when you simply cannot possibly give them what they need? They just have to stop needing it and then it will all be ok?
Because they can't change either.