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Originally Posted by lemjau  I am sorry Cloud but where did you see marinik saying anything about her body or external validation. On the contrary, she just said she was fine with who she was and doing the best to be the best version of herself.
She said that people were attracted to her because she didn't care what they thought of her, she was fine with whom she is.
Aren't you projecting yourself? |
People say what they want to be true, but the way they say it often reveals the actual truth. Are the truly confident people the ones that boast about themselves most loudly? From their words, one could assume that they are very self-assured. But everybody knows that their boisterousness stems from insecurity, not courage.
It's one of the trickiest kinds of validation to diagnose, because it seeks validation through apparent independence. Marinik has created the facade of independence, of being pretty great without caring what other people think. A facade that she has a powerful urge to point out to people when she's talking about herself.
I'm not dumping on marinik at all, she sounds like a really fantastic and upstanding lady. But I would be remiss if I didn't point out this small shortcoming of hers. If it's not really there, then she doesn't need my validation and won't mind that I'm chasing ghosts. But if it is there, then she now has the valuable opportunity to achieve a greater understanding of herself. And for that, I'm willing to risk being wrong.