Have any of you read Byron Katie's book Loving What Is
? Steve's message sounds very similar to Katie's, specifically the process she calls "The Turnaround."
If you're interested, check out her website http://www.thework.com/
. I find myself automatically employing her 4-step process (followed most importantly by the "turnaround'), whenever I am bothered by relationship issues.
I have a couple of other thoughts on this topic that are floating around in my head, but I can't seem to formalize them at this hour (10pm after an evening of night skiing with my two young kids!), so I'll repost when the thoughts are more clear.