You need to pull out a balance scale and figure out what is more important. For instance, if a friend's girlfriend invites you out to a party and at the party you friend's girlfriend was being hit on heavily (Think of it as more then a 'hi'). What do you tell your friend after the party?
To answer you have to look at the consequences at what will happen after. If I do nothing, then I am taking the side of the cheater, as the cheater wants nobody to know. If I do something, I take the side of my friend.
Now who's side would you take? For me, I'd back up my friend in a heart beat regardless of the negative things that will take place because I am on his side. The negative feeling of betraying my friend would have over taken me and I'm not sure we'd be friends. Since I wanted to be his friend, I told him.
So imagine the result that will happen and try to feel if it is something that I'd want.
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