Yeah, I'm a little lost, too. Great idea, though. I can see where it might apply some of the time. I can see where things I find annoying in other people are sometimes things I donít like in myself. But I just don't see how it works in other situations. I have a friend who is habitually late; Iím habitually on time. How is she a reflection of me? And my being on time has not influenced her to be on time. She's still just as late as ever.
I do agree completely, though, with what Steve said about interacting more with others as a way to learn about yourself. I also agree that improving your internal relationships improves your relationships with others.