What about emphatic abilities?
What about telepathic abilities?
Are these the skills that actually cause the other person to start behaving differently as you start to focus on the given issue that previously bothered you? Isn't empathy actually a way to get an objective standpoint on another person's views and emotions over an issue?
And what about equanimity?
Isn't it best to just let things be the way they are and not get yourself bothered by anything? I certainly can't list a single thing that bothers me about other people. In turn, it seems that no other person I know is bothered by my behaviour in turn. It's not indifference - it's making yourself incapable of feeling negative emotions over people doing things differently than you are. Or are you saying that this in fact is what one should strive for and in turn the other person actually starts to do things your way and feeling great about it?