>>I belive that love is a moment. And that moment can last for 50 years or just for a day. But in that moment you stop being selfish for the first tme in your life. You're willing to let other person to change you because losing her would be a thousand times more painful than changing yourself. By doing that a man is growing and becoming a better person<<
This is response reminds me of the Gift of the Magi. You are willing to change for the person you love, but if they love YOU, they don't want you to change. I am right now working through having wanted my poor husband to have changed some things about himself for the past 25 years. Nothing big, just little things. Recently, I guess I started to grow up and grow in how I love him. Because I now recognize those things as part of HIM and I love HIM. Also, he isn't me. His weird habits do not reflect on me. That last part is hard with children, too. It is hard to let the people you love be themselves, but probably the greatest gift of love you can give them.
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