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Originally Posted by Angela  If you don't want a marriage, don't have one. 
If you, and people who feel as you do, don't get married, the system will collapse of its own weight.
Meanwhile the people who value marriage (and apparently there are more of them than there are of you) are free to choose, just as you are free to choose. Those people are responsible for the consequences of their choice, just as you are responsible for the consequences of yours. |
Angela, I am all for people being "married" but I just think that we should abolish the legal form of institutionalized marriage. The gov't should not even pay attention, keep records of it, etc.
We can keep all the good and discard much of the bad.
How much energy and tax dollars are wasted in all the divorces?
The term marriage is a loaded word. There is the action that we take daily being married and then there is the legal form of marriage.
How bout' we use the word "committed". You could send out invitations to your Commitment Ceremony, still get your ring and have a huge party if you like. BUT, the gov't would still recognize you both as individuals as far as taxes go.
If people want to "separate" they can send in the paper to the church or wherever they were "committed" and then its done. If they wanted to get re-committed at any time they could.
You do realize that marriage is primarily a cultural and legal thing right? In the end we are all individuals. The institutionalized version of marriage however complicates things and as a society we've had to work around it.
When one spouse has bad credit why should it affect the other?
If one spouse runs up a huge credit card bill then why should the other be responsible?
Is it confusing for women to change their last names? Isn't this a barbaric ritual that strips her own identity?
If you think outside the box here and could design a brand new system that took all the good and left out most of the bad it could be an improved system.