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Originally Posted by James81  I've been in an online relationship, so I'm speaking from personal experience.
I said those exact same words. hell, at the time I thought my online relationship was the most intimate and close I'd ever gotten with anyone.
When we met, however, I realized that it's psuedo-intimacy. That's it's more of an addiction to each other's minds than it is "intimacy." And that the real life version isn't nowhere near the level of intimacy that I thought it was at.
We get addicted to the "high" of challenging each other's minds and using our imaginations with each other. Some of the sexual fantasies were off the charts, some of the phone conversations were steamy....but the reality? When we ACTUALLY had sex? Terrible. Just terrible.
It was that experience that taught me that there is no substitute for physical interaction and intimacy. Although I think that an online relationship with someone you can be intimate with in real life will ADD to the relationship, it'll never replace the physical intimacy. |
I am not in a online relationship. My partner does not like the internet. And we meet eachother often and have great sex. We have spent weeks together. Being in a hotel rooms for days is not always very comfortable but we don't have a problem with this. We are very close and very intimate and we share everything. We just don't live in the same country. So you see I am not speaking of a relationship with a ghost or letters on a screen. I am talking flesh... a man I adore and miss and long for. We both love eachother very deeply. I have tried to end this a few times because it has no future but he just stuck in there and didn't let me go.