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Originally Posted by marinik  Well I have been in a relationship you describe and every day life "swallowed" it. A this moment I do not need what you are describing. This is exactly what I need and you are very wrong if you think there is more intimacy than in what is a "close" relationship. On the contrary. I have never been so close to and with anyone.
And no I haven't any intimacy issues. |
I've been in an online relationship, so I'm speaking from personal experience.
I said those exact same words. hell, at the time I thought my online relationship was the most intimate and close I'd ever gotten with anyone.
When we met, however, I realized that it's psuedo-intimacy. That's it's more of an addiction to each other's minds than it is "intimacy." And that the real life version isn't nowhere near the level of intimacy that I thought it was at.
We get addicted to the "high" of challenging each other's minds and using our imaginations with each other. Some of the sexual fantasies were off the charts, some of the phone conversations were steamy....but the reality? When we ACTUALLY had sex? Terrible. Just terrible.
It was that experience that taught me that there is no substitute for physical interaction and intimacy. Although I think that an online relationship with someone you can be intimate with in real life will ADD to the relationship, it'll never replace the physical intimacy.