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DarkCatalyst · 06-15-2009, 05:43 PM

Hey all,

I found my way here through one of the articles on this site; "Life Sucks, and Then You Die." This is my first time posting here and I feel a bit uncomfortable because I don't like exposing my personal problems for everyone to see. Though, I'm hoping to get some advice,

I won't bore you with a backstory or a lot of details. The fact is that I am terribly unhappy and I seem to be getting worse as the days go by. I'm 28 and I feel like a complete failure. I have loads of student loan debt and no career. I have very few friends (the envy I feel towards more successful peers just destroys those relationships) and no family in this state. I'm approaching 3 years at working on my Master's. It was supposed to be a two year program. Unfortunately, I've had several setbacks with my research in addition to my general laziness.

The article referenced above encouraged me to change things. If I didn't know what to change then to change anything, however minor. The problem is, that I can't get myself to change anything. I just don't care and I feel like giving up. Well, maybe I should revise that last statement. I care enough to be bothered and tortured over it, but not enough to actually change it. I'm well aware of all my missed opportunities. It's seared into my mind. You'd think I would learn something from it but I don't. I just go on doing the same thing.

I really hate my life and I get no joy out of it. The only thing I like doing is playing World of Warcraft. I actually prefer my virtual life, which is pretty sad. Any advice on how to proceed?

DC

06-15-2009, 05:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
DarkCatalyst Banned Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 3	Hopelessly Stuck Hey all, I found my way here through one of the articles on this site; "Life Sucks, and Then You Die." This is my first time posting here and I feel a bit uncomfortable because I don't like exposing my personal problems for everyone to see. Though, I'm hoping to get some advice, I won't bore you with a backstory or a lot of details. The fact is that I am terribly unhappy and I seem to be getting worse as the days go by. I'm 28 and I feel like a complete failure. I have loads of student loan debt and no career. I have very few friends (the envy I feel towards more successful peers just destroys those relationships) and no family in this state. I'm approaching 3 years at working on my Master's. It was supposed to be a two year program. Unfortunately, I've had several setbacks with my research in addition to my general laziness. The article referenced above encouraged me to change things. If I didn't know what to change then to change anything, however minor. The problem is, that I can't get myself to change anything. I just don't care and I feel like giving up. Well, maybe I should revise that last statement. I care enough to be bothered and tortured over it, but not enough to actually change it. I'm well aware of all my missed opportunities. It's seared into my mind. You'd think I would learn something from it but I don't. I just go on doing the same thing. I really hate my life and I get no joy out of it. The only thing I like doing is playing World of Warcraft. I actually prefer my virtual life, which is pretty sad. Any advice on how to proceed? DC