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I've told them that I'm an adult (I'm 22), and they need to simply need to accept whatever decisions I make and be supportive. I've been pretty blunt in saying that career and financial advice from them is completely useless and a waste of time, because I have no desire to model their lives.
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I disappointed them when I realized that college does not fit with my goals. I disappointed them when I told them I'm never going to have a job again. I disappointed them when I got engaged to someone they don't approve of. I disappointed them when I left Christianity after realizing it was a stupid religion.
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I'm not trying to be nasty, but it does seem as though you might be quite judgmental and critical towards your parents.
They have raised you as best they know how, and of course they have ideas about how your life might be, or what they think might be best (read: most helpful and least likely to cause you pain down the line) for you. At 22, you don't have a lot of independent living behind you, but you do have a lot of living ahead, so maybe you can understand that when you tell your parents, "I don't need to go to college, I don't need to get a job, and I intend to spend my life with someone you don't like", this makes them anxious because they go against conventional ideas of security and success, and so they express disapproval.
And you respond by telling them you don't respect their decisions, that their advice is useless and their religion is stupid (not sure if you actually said this to them but it seems to be what you think)?
Perhaps you would meet with less resistance from them if you don't act like you know it all and they are stupid. Thank them for raising you well, to be a person who is capable of independent thought and who values secure relationships like marriage. Thank them for their advice and concerns, but express that you are choosing a path that seems to work well for you.
Eventually they will see that you can earn money without a degree, that you can live well without a 'job' and that your marriage is successful. Then they will relax. Until they see the workability of your decisions though, you can expect them to be quite anxious about your welfare.