Some of you are giving great advice, some are simply judging me.
First of all, I live 3 hours away from my parents. I keep a healthy distance, and only visit every other month or so.
Funchy, why are you assuming I need my parents approval for things? If I needed their approval, I wouldn't be constantly be taking a direction different then their vision for me. This disappointment is not created in my mind either, my parents scowl when I tell them about my goals, and they verbally express their disappointment.
I'm not constantly obsessing about helping my parents, in fact, I rarely even think about them. I posted this because it was on my mind while visiting my parents.
I've told them that I'm an adult (I'm 22), and they need to simply need to accept whatever decisions I make and be supportive. I've been pretty blunt in saying that career and financial advice from them is completely useless and a waste of time, because I have no desire to model their lives.
But I do love my parents, and I do appriciate my middle class upbringing. My parents are miserable, they hate their jobs and they don't seem to even like eachother very much. I'd like them to live happier lives. This is why I was posting this. I was just wondering if anyone here has had success in bringing positive changes to their parents' way of thinking, and if so, how they did it.
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