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Originally Posted by Michael Chui  Speaking for a friend, he'd be absolutely overjoyed.  On one level, anyways. |
LMAO! My husband is actually scared that if I lose too much weight, some of my more pronounced assets will disappear. LOL.
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Originally Posted by elainevdw As convoluted as that sounds... I know exactly what you mean, Trina! 
And regarding PJ pants, I recently discovered that the most horrific pair of frumpy pink fleece PJ pants I own is a secret favorite of my bf. He says it shows off my butt, but I really don't see where he's coming from!  |
LOL! Well, I have some horrendous sweat pants that I wear sometimes in the winter because it gets freezing here and they are comfy. They are UGLY but my husband loves them b ecause of the way they feel and they way they fit. So see? Even PJ pants can be sexy. LOL.
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Originally Posted by Dave Kaminski My friends and I were talking about this and I was saying that I don't like to hang out with really overweight people and they said they feel the same way but they feel shallow. However, I told them not to.
It's not shallow to put 2 & 2 together and realize that this is the result of the actions that these people take daily. Anyone can grow, it's difficult but it's not THAT hard.
However, no one is perfect. So don't be SO quick to judge either. I'm certainly not. Just saying that people who are way overweight and without motivation are different, not just physically but in essence, as those people who are in shape and motivated. |
I have to admit it bothers me that you and your friends don't like to hang out with overweight people. And enough to actually talk about it and reassure each other that it's okay. I personally would NEVER discriminate against someone like that, especially when we are just talking about friendship, not even romantic relationships here. Just because someone has issues with maintaining the kind of weight you find acceptable to be worthy of your friendship doesn't mean that they lack other qualities you could greatly benefit from. Like maybe a more open mind towards people that are different than you? I don't mean to be... well, mean. I am just really disturbed by this!
I am overweight, and not by my own choice. I get the stereotypes all the time. Even my own nieces and nephews have told me that I shouldn't eat pizza before because I am too fat, and that I should exercise and maybe I would be skinny like them. I didn't gain weight because I am lazy or because I let myself go. I gained weight because I abandoned the habits and behaviors that I was participating in while I WAS letting myself go. I used to do meth... quitting took more willpower and self respect than I ever had before and caused more personal growth than any other experience in my life ever did. Because of that, I have gained more self esteem than I have ever had. I am comfortable with who I am and self confidence is part of who I am now. So, to hear that someone who claims to be on a path of personal development wouldn't hang out with me because I weigh too much hurts my feelings. I really hope you mean your last paragraph, but just because someone is overweight doesn't mean that they aren't healthy or motivated. I an very active, I eat healthy (more healthy than MOST people believe me, maybe even you), and I am a motivated person. Before you tell me that most people aren't like me, I am a special case, etc... by deciding that you don't want to be friends with people if they are overweight before you even get to know them, you are excluding the "special cases" just like me automatically anyway, so what difference does it make if I am in the minority or majority?