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Originally Posted by Angela  A child may be capable physically of giving birth, but there's more to being a mother than just giving birth.
I don't need to check with an external source, like how I was brought up or what society says is "wrong" to know that I'm glad not to have been knocked up at age 9 (or 12, or 15). My internal resources are entirely sufficient for me to feel quite happy to support the protection of children from sex with adults, and to recognize that an adult who is willing to have sex with a child (who is clearly lacking the inner resources to deal with sex or pregnancy effectively, and with real, informed, choice) is acting with a win/lose intention -- no integrity there. |
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As far as youthful sex goes it seems that adults (the rule makers) want to limit the choices of the young in order to protect them from their future. To protect them from an emotional reaction they might have if they later reflect on their choices and deny or judge their experiences as wrong (ie. shame).
Simply, adults (rule makers) who have felt shame around their own choices want to deny life's experiences to others because they fear they (the others) will make the exact same choice to feel shame about their life's experience, rather than to receive them as they are.
It's all about emotional protection. And the rules in this case against sex with minors perpetuates the idea of shame rather than let life flow it's natural course, unencumbered by a sea of emotional turmoil.
Believing the idea that sex with an older person is "wrong" is what creates the shame in the first place.
There's no rightness or wrongness to it... it is what it is. I know some will totally disagree with me and that's ok. With what I've written I'm trying to dive deeper into this than just what looks to be the issue. Other rules we have in society are probably also designed to avoid experiencing shame in the future. But the only way you can do that is to make certain experiences wrong now.
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Why should a specific group of people who hold the power of decision making see it fit to trample on other peoples right just because they assume that they are right and others have no choice but to accept that they are wrong.
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Just know that that is a societal influence, and not a "natural" influence.
I mean, after all, people were kings and queens at such ages in the distant past.
Young people can handle a lot more than we give them credit for
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I agree with you completely!