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Originally Posted by ssandra  What actually is developing is the ability to foresee the reaction to your action, to more than just the immediate future. |
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Originally Posted by ssandra But, as a teenager you simply do not have the brain to forsee what those dangers are and what it might mean for your future. |
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Originally Posted by ssandra This also means stopping them from making decisions that can affect their entire life and they cannot oversee the consequenses yet. |
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Originally Posted by ssandra Why should you not wait for something important? Of course, not forever, but at least until you are old enough to understand the consequenses of your actions? |
As far as youthful sex goes it seems that adults (the rule makers) want to limit the choices of the young in order to protect them from their future. To protect them from an emotional reaction they might have if they later reflect on their choices and deny or judge their experiences as wrong (ie. shame).
Simply, adults (rule makers) who have felt shame around their own choices want to deny life's experiences to others because they fear they (the others) will make the exact same
choice to feel shame about their life's experience, rather than to receive them as they are.
It's all about emotional protection. And the rules in this case against sex with minors perpetuates the idea of shame rather than let life flow it's natural course, unencumbered by a sea of emotional turmoil.
Believing the idea that sex with an older person is "wrong" is what creates the shame in the first place.
There's no rightness or wrongness to it... it is what it is. I know some will totally disagree with me and that's ok. With what I've written I'm trying to dive deeper into this than just what looks to be the issue. Other rules we have in society are probably also designed to avoid experiencing shame in the future. But the only way you can do that is to make certain experiences wrong
now.
What's the takeaway from this? I don't think the forum is going to say hell with it and start sleeping with adolescents. I think the forum members will look at their own lives and say "where is it that I judge myself as wrong so I don't experience things in my life?"