i agree that a lot of this is out of your control...you will never be able to really get on with your life and your family until you realize there are certain irrevocable changes...most of it is your dad's business and concern unless he asks for your help or your opinion...the dogs are another issue...i know what is like to have to make life adjustments because of pets...and except in extreme or unexpected circumstances...imo, if you take on the responsiblility of that basically innocent, dependent life...you have to think, and try long and hard...there are some no kill shelters who try really hard to find homes...if a dog is elderly, i don't think death should be the only option...but if the animal is really unplaceable, or may be ignored, unloved....that is still a tough call
