One of the side effects of depression is a distortion in perception. People see things through gray colored glasses. Things that aren't that bad, look that bad when they are not.
Cognitive therapy, clincally proven to be as effective as medication works by helping people to fix their faulty perceptions.
There is a grain of truth in what you say. I don't mean that shooting for too many goals can lead to depression if you don't achieve all of them. What I mean is that what you tell yourself about these set backs can effect your mood, color the way you look at things and lead to depression.
Success encourages people, failure discourages people. It is as simple as that. People who manage to achieve a lot manage to hold their heads together when what they want doesn't come quickly or doesn't come at all.
They are able to keep their attitudes good and keep trying until they something sticks. It isn't easy.
Watch what your thoughts are and what you tell yourself. Talk to other people, ask them if they have failed at many things before getting where they are. Don't look at your failures as failures, but lessons. See if anything positive came from those efforts......remind yourself of those things.
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