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Originally Posted by Zerox  Well yeah, I agree with you.
I have tons of Acquaintances, TONS. But I have maybe one that I would call a friend.
It usually goes weeks where im not talking to anyone.
I do think this is because I'm not very "normal".
I don't drink, I dislike drinking hence; clubbing/partying SUCKS, at least in my experience.
Unless you have a well paying job or money in a bank, you cant afford to take classes, meet people doing something you enjoy.
I find most "normal" things to be extremely boring, and in most situation I'll get bored in the first 15minutes of a conversation.
I'm boring (I must be, everyone I've met tell me so), and I cant find anything that will change that. I hope for it, I visualize it, but it doesnt happen. (and ofc I try new things)
I have nearly no interests.
Pretty much, psychology, philosophy, art, music, women.
And.. you wouldn't believe how hard it is to find people with similar interests.
(that you can later become friends with)
So I agree, acquaintances = easy
Women/friends = hard |
Maybe it's your attitudes towards socialising that prevents you from making friends.
In my opinion, from experience.. music is probably the best interest there is for making friends, and with males the best thing to bond over is sports, followed by music.
As well, I think it's more attitude than interests that determines the friends/ lovers you make.. Often I'll meet a girl, and have lots in common with her, but because of my anxiety, it doesn't go as planned..
I checked your DeviantArt page, I used to rely on my artwork for compliments from other people, but now I need approval less.. here's my devart page;
captainmania on deviantART
I think artists can seem boring, because we kind of plod away in our own gardens a bit, rather than live for the party, usually.. Although big cities can be good for finding fun.. Although artist friends are great friends, I'd suggest you try and find some.. They're usually hipper, and more genuine than regular people..
Like, do you think you're boring? It's not up for other people to make that judgement, because you know yourself better than they do..