Wow Angela, thank you so much for your response.
Until now I never made a distinction between 'condone' and 'accept', they were the same thing to me. Whenever I accepted something I condoned it as well and whenever I didn't condone something I didn't accept it either and I can see now how that put me into a difficult bind in many a situation in my life.
And really thanks for the ouch from the bottom of my heart. There's no need to apoligize; to me there is no greater experience than uncovering a tender spot in my soul I never noticed before but that has been radiating out pain through my life. Thank you!
And I'll seriously consider taking your advice for Valentine's Day ... it sounds like a great thing to do.
On a side note, according to the Levels of Consciousness scale I realized that I was in the process of shifting from willingness to acceptance, except until now I never understood what acceptance had to do with that step. So I guess this is it .....
