I would think that no matter what, your mother would have wanted both you and the dogs to be happy in the end. She found joy and comfort in the house, and she wanted to pass that feeling on to you. She found love and happiness in her dogs, and vice versa, her dogs found the same in their relationship with her.
From the sound of it, you have two situations that are not bringing either party still here on earth any joy.
The house sounds like it might be more a source of guilt and obligation at this point. If the house does not bring you the comfort that it brought your mother, then I would say let it go. Releasing the burden would probably make your mother more happy then holding on to it. If no one is living there, I can imagine over time, the burden of taking care of an unoccupied home will grow exponentially. Was the intent of the request more about a physical object, or more to take care of her loved ones later on? I suspect part of the request was to ease her own mind before passing as she was quite attached to the house, and if that is the sole reason, then it is definitely time to let go.
The other issue would be the dogs. They are pack animals, and with the loss of your mother and no one living there, they are truly in need of another pack to live with. Either in your home, or with someone who will care for them in their senior years. If they found happiness in another family or rescue facility, I would think that would bring more peace to your mom then them staying 'in the family' per say. You might check into rescues in your local area and find out what services they have for senior or special needs animals. It is harder to home dog with say bladder problems, but there might be some alternatives that will allow them a more secure feeling/environment. I personally believe dogs are less connected to objects (the house), and more connected to energy and the balance around them. Moving to a more balanced loving environment would benefit them more in the long run. Animals have a great ability to live in the moment, no matter what the age. Even if they are blind, they will adjust to the new environment in a short period of time, and move forward.
Just my thoughts from an outside perspective. Best of luck in your decisions!
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