Sounds like for you, this guy is a fixer-upper, not a partner.
When you're with a real partner, you accept him exactly as he is and exactly as he isn't.
When you keep trying to change and fix a person, you send him a constant message that he's not good enough. You may want to apologize to him for that. The guy you're with is good enough. It's YOU who needs to do some work. If you're able to be generous enough to give him the freedom to be who he is, you might be able to make the relationship work. If you're not, be honest with him, break it off and give him a chance to find himself a real partner. Then you can take a look and see what's missing within your own self that you'd want to spend a year and half trying to change a perfectly fine man. They're all perfectly fine men, so if you don't do the work, you're going to find yourself repeating this pattern and never being satisfied and fulfilled.
It will take courage to look at yourself so boldly. I wish you the best, and lots of love.
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