Is she protective or embarrased?
In my opinion she doesn't respect you and therefore treats you badly. When she treats you badly, you don't stand up for yourself, and this makes her lose respect and the cycle continues.
If you started making firm boundaries you would both be happier. You have to be the man in the relationship or she is constantly going to bring up petty things to fight about. It's her expressing her unhappiness through proxy - she probably doesn't even know what her real issue is but just has this subconsious urge to make a fight.
All I can say is i've seen this issue over and over and the only way to solve it is to grow a backbone and place firm but gentle boundaries.
Next time she does something I would look her in the eye and tell her straight out to "Stop." I would tell her never to speak to me like that again. "Never speak to me like that again." I would mean it. Or, if she stepped in front of me, I would gently grab her arm so as to get her attention, look her in the eye, and say, "Don't do that again." And I would mean it.
If the behaviour continued I'd just say bye and leave.
You have to have boundaries, especially with women. I've never met a woman who responded well when I didn't have clear boundaries. And you can't say it in anger - that only encourages her. You have to say it like a fact and show her you mean it.
You can change things on a dime for forever if you tell her to stop and you actually mean it.
If you aren't willing to walk away neither of you will be happy. It will make you clingy and unattractive, it will make her irritable and resentful.
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