Hey everybody,
After reading through a few of the latest post, I wanted to share this question with you:
How do you know when you should stop investing in a relationship?
I'm currently really struggling with this question in my relationship. Before I outline my scenario, I want to say that I belief you can make any relationship work. I believe that humans were made to love every single human far more intensely than the best of relationships and that all problems in relationships are no more than unlearned lessons on either, usually both, sides. I also believe that you can teach anyone any lesson, given that you put in enough positive energy.
Given that, I'm now 24 and a year and a half into my first relationship ever. The first half-year we were together I put an incredible amount of energy into learning the lessons I needed to learn and teaching my partner the lessons he needed to learn, and it worked; we made rapid progress towards our dreams.
Over the last year however I started investing less and less energy until now the investment is virtually non-existent and I realized that without my energy, my partner is still a far way away from being a person that I would want to spend the rest of my life with.
Now I believe I can make this relationship work, I also believe however that it will take an incredible amount of energy, I just have no clue if I should do this. I have no idea if it's stupid to invest this much energy into it. I don't know if it's bad to leave. All I do know is that I feel it is holding me back from fulfilling my deepest purpose on this planet.
On the other hand however, it feels really awful to leave your partner saying that you know it could have worked out great but that it was just too much effort.
What should I do??? Please tell me something, I have NO clue!!