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carenkh · 06-03-2009, 12:20 AM

I was thinking pretty much what Cyllya said - he was possibly hiding it from himself.

We had a support group at our church (Unitarian Universalist) for straight spouses for a few years. One couple I've gotten to know very well, I'm good friends with the gay husband. They are an amazingly loving couple, they've been married close to 20 years, have raised kids together. They had been married maybe 3 years when my friend was finally able to admit to himself that he was gay. They decided to remain married, because they felt like it was best for the kids, but the husband has explored relationships outside the marriage. I don't think he does any more.

I think you must have provided a safe, trusting space for your boyfriend to make the discovery!

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carenkh Family Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Charlotte, NC Posts: 1,800	I was thinking pretty much what Cyllya said - he was possibly hiding it from himself. We had a support group at our church (Unitarian Universalist) for straight spouses for a few years. One couple I've gotten to know very well, I'm good friends with the gay husband. They are an amazingly loving couple, they've been married close to 20 years, have raised kids together. They had been married maybe 3 years when my friend was finally able to admit to himself that he was gay. They decided to remain married, because they felt like it was best for the kids, but the husband has explored relationships outside the marriage. I don't think he does any more. I think you must have provided a safe, trusting space for your boyfriend to make the discovery!