Hmmm... please elaborate? I'm not understanding the problem. Normally your reaction would make me think that you're upset over something else (e.g. cheating or lying) and just blaming the bisexuality, but I figure that's not the case since you stress that you have nothing against gay/bi people.
To me, saying "No woman/Man should go about life in a romantic relationship wondering as to whether or not their partner is straight" seems similar to saying something like, "No woman/Man should go about life in a romantic relationship wondering as to whether or not their partner likes bananas." It's kind of surprising to learn something like that only after so many years, but why is it so upsetting? (True Story: I recently realized my best friend of ten years doesn't like bananas. I was really surprised!)
In addition to the things spirit4711 mentioned, there's also the fact that most people are straight, so a person will generally grow up assuming themselves to be straight. When they notice their feelings toward their same sex aren't what is normal, then they realize they're gay. (Sometimes this is when they're really young, sometimes they're already adults before they notice.) I can see why a bisexual person, especially one whose tastes lean towards the opposite sex, might take longer to realize this--especially if it's a man. Since non-straight men are looked upon very poorly in our society, a man may be less likely to stop and think about whether he's bi and will be in denial if he starts to suspect it. "[I]t took him being in a relationship with ME for 4½ years to bring out his inner bisexual" makes it sound like he just recently realized he was bisexual. You can't be mad at him for not telling you something he didn't know, right?
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