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Velvet · 01-26-2007, 06:36 PM

[QUOTE=Angela;35893]I haven't read the book and don't know if the author is saying women should be subservient, which I would certainly not agree with.[QUOTE]

Since posting my original query, I have in fact read the book now. No, the author doesn't preach subservience, thank god! It is all about letting go of control, having boundaries, and also being emotionally vulnerable and available.

This was a key point for me, because if you were to ask me, "Are you available for a relationship? Are you emotionally vulnerable to men?" I'd say "of course."

But on reflection, I am rife with fears and full of defenses, and paradoxically, don't often keep healthy boundaries. The author gives some tips about how to just let down your emotional guard, stop trying to get men to approve of you, etc.

It's really quite pro-female, encourages self-respect and independence, and definitely not one of those self-help books that makes you feel like men are all-powerful and you're doing everything all wrong. (You know books like that?)

It's pretty gentle and positive and Law-of-Attraction-y.

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Velvet Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: New York, NY Posts: 136	Ive now read the book.... [QUOTE=Angela;35893]I haven't read the book and don't know if the author is saying women should be subservient, which I would certainly not agree with.[QUOTE] Since posting my original query, I have in fact read the book now. No, the author doesn't preach subservience, thank god! It is all about letting go of control, having boundaries, and also being emotionally vulnerable and available. This was a key point for me, because if you were to ask me, "Are you available for a relationship? Are you emotionally vulnerable to men?" I'd say "of course." But on reflection, I am rife with fears and full of defenses, and paradoxically, don't often keep healthy boundaries. The author gives some tips about how to just let down your emotional guard, stop trying to get men to approve of you, etc. It's really quite pro-female, encourages self-respect and independence, and definitely not one of those self-help books that makes you feel like men are all-powerful and you're doing everything all wrong. (You know books like that?) It's pretty gentle and positive and Law-of-Attraction-y.