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Originally Posted by Dating Specialist  May I ask why are you stuck, wolfgang?
What would happen that you can't handle if you two aren't together? How would you like things to be different if you two still stay together? |
We're stuck since neither of us has had the courage to completly call it off. We've built up some life style that we both like, the activities and commonalities of ideas/thoughts that we enjoy and that keeps us giong to some extent, the stuckness. And I have the feeling of doing the right thing around her, to not rock her boat more while she has life things so I don't change much as far as going in the direction of leaving her.
To not be with her I have the fears of not finding someone, so then maybe now is as good as it gets and I should just face it and make it better. Or that I won't like being alone to my detrement - althought mostly I imagine being even more involved with what I enjoy if I was alone. Sometimes I look ahead and don't have worries - that women do smile at me so there are other's out there and I'd do even more healthy things on my own, work out more regularly.
Boy, staying together. I'd like to feel attracted to her more, she's a beauty (for her age and all, but...). I'd like to want to have sex with her. She is wanting it, instagates it mostly, and says she's attracted to me fine. I don't tell her I'm not attracted (trying to be kind?) but the intamacy is strained and I'm remote, don't enjoy kissing her.
Somehow I don't like too much being around other people with her. I've not gone to parties because of that. I've excluded her in cases too. So I'd like to have it so I'm comfortable having her around socially and feel joyful about inviting her along.
And it's not just becuase I wonder what people think to see the age diff, there's something about her steam rollering conversations or like she'll stand infront of me if there's a circle of people so effectively blocking my position (I'll move over and she will again, weird). Although I'm a quiet guy anyway and sometimes I didn't feel like talking and she can do all the talking she wants without me feeling closed out.
I'm not quite myself with her and being around others. Although I've been getting better that this, just not too easy to maintain who I am around her. I find it much easier to talk with others on my own. So I'd like to be myself even if she's around. It's not too big an issue, this one. More like a sutble feeling.
I want to feel that I want to stay with her and grow old together and then put a ring on her finger.