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You have to give someone room to impress you, rather than have these harsh views and try to force him to prove them wrong.
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I gave him PLENTY of room, he still has some left if he cares enough to use it.
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If I were in your place, I would wonder if maybe whatever forces are at work (god/oneness/a highly perceptive social subconscious/whatever) were trying to tell you that he really *isn't* the one you're looking for . . . Not to mean that you're not compatible or that you can't have a great relationship-- But rather that you're looking for someone to break through all this stuff you've built up when that's YOUR baggage. You shouldn't look for a peaceful resolution to all that in another person, you should look for that in yourself.
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Dealt with my baggage, got it down to carry-on size. Still not impressed however, and I'm not prepared to budge on my boundaries and values.
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From personal experience, when you do start focusing on handling all your needs, suddenly people warm up to you a lot more. Seriously, I've worked on taking more responsibility in my life in these past few months and suddenly this man who's been in my life for awhile who's had kind of a wandering personality is a lot more stable and secure. There wasn't really a problem before given that I'm fairly laid back- but things have gone from "great" to "AMAZING." It's a lot easier for people to be comfortable with themselves and their feelings (and the expression of those things) if they're not feeling pressure to fix/manage your life on top of their own, you know?
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Yep, was well and truly happy in my life and myself and was not even looking for a mate, until I decided to give this guy I liked very much a go, and here we are back at square one... wondering how something so nice and easy can has to turn to nonsense and game-playing.
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I would assume the best of this guy (maybe he is really extraordinary and in fact so in touch with the universe that he's drunkenly channeling important messages for you, lol) . . . and act accordingly. If it's no good, it will become apparent and you'll learn from it. Not only that, you can have the added confidence of knowing you remained strong and beautiful regardless of the nature of the connection. 
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I guess time will tell, but I certainly am not pinning my hopes on it.