was involved in 3 year relationship with someone that was extremely sexually dysfunctional...not that i wasn't which i guess is what attracted me to him...i was so hungry for something 'normal' and satisfying i went way over my edge with with a bit of kinkiness...i am pretty sure he was bi...or at least had tendancies...but outwardly appeared as the stud...and very homophobic... he also said he wished he could know how it was to be woman and get all the breaks in life by using their bodies
...he was also messed up because his ex wife turned lesbian for a short period of time...anyway i digress...bottom line thru all of this because i loved him...i felt i could put up with and stay with him no matter what because it was his inherent being that i cared about...what ended it was i knew i was finally tired of the humiliation of his cheating and knowing i was not going to get what i wanted in anyway from this relationship. i also have know gay men who boast about the fiances, the husbands and boyfriends that they bed...unknown to the woman...which i feel is a horrible betrayal...it seems like a conguer game...the bottom line in honesty...no matter what...that is the only way for everyone to make decisions about the rest of their lives without having the other persons actions do it for them. i have also heard of the expression (from these gay men...again no offense...friend of mine) 'bi-curious'....to me a lot of times that is a straight guy who is drunk, want to have sex, can't get a woman...so he will take the next best thing....